The way in which a person and/or society treats their mother(s) says everything about the health and core essence of that person and/or society.

Mothers are sacred beings and they deserve respect. Yet, we live in a society and culture that has industrialized and medicalized the birth process as well as belittle the role of a mother. Birth is a sacred, transformational rite of passage for many women. Yet, at this current moment, many women are birthing alone or without support due to the actions and reactions of our state and local governments. In our country, many new mothers barely get time off of work while many cultures around the world almost require a lying in period to recover from birth. And in our culture, we have mainstream media that floods new mothers with the latest photos of a supermodel after birth or instigating mom wars for every decision inside the motherhood transition (home birth vs hospital, vaccinations vs non-vaccinations, cosleeping vs crib, etc).

Our society may want to re-evaluate its values, because, in my opinion, mothers are sacred beings and deserve respect.

When will we start putting HUMAN values over industrial or technology or business values?

As we all know we are in the middle of something that has significantly impacted nearly everyone across the globe. Before we move on, I want to pause and honor those people that may have lost a loved one. It is never easy to lose someone you are close with, and I am deeply sorry for your loss.

We have all been through this COVID-19 experience, together yet socially distant. All of us have altered the course of our daily lives. Many of us have lost jobs and/or had to pivot our businesses. Others of us have had babies and even celebrated birthdays, new jobs, and engagements all throughout this experience. It’s been a wild ride for sure.

For now, I’ll spare you my opinion on my thoughts of the virus origin (the bat story doesn’t do it for me) and treatment methods (vaccines don’t do it for me either). What I do want to bring to your attention is your LIFESTYLE.

Our lifestyle significantly influences our health and the optimization of our human body. One hour of fitness compared to the other 23 hours a day of sitting or lying down will not enhance your health. That daily multivitamin will not do anything to lower overall inflammation if you’re eating inflammatory foods like conventional, store-bought dairy and highly processed foods for each meal of your day. The relationship you have with food and movement and your connection with your community and environment every damn day will have much more of an influence on your overall health and wellbeing.

How you live your life today will determine the quality of your tomorrow.

As many of you, my lifestyle has been altered (March was a shit show). Yet, I feel as though it’s been a major reset for me. I’ve slowed down and prioritized. I’ve been waking up with the sunlight and winding down as the sun sets. I’ve been walking to the market to buy local meats and produce and supporting a local delivery service once a week for my regular items like bacon, eggs, butter, and seasonal produce. My meditation and prayer practices have become a lot more consistent and deeper. And my fitness has evolved into as much low intensity, continuous movement throughout the day as I possibly can fit in.

Currently, a typical work day may look like (but not always guaranteed)…

7am Wake up- Meditate, Prayer, Coffee, Read, Journal

8:30am Twenty Minutes of Movement ( I’ve been doing Mindset & Movement with BIRTHFIT)

9:30am Breakfast and then Emails

10:15am Short Walk (1-2 miles)

11:00am Work, Meetings, Writing

2:00pm Strength Training or Sprints

3:30pm Work, Meetings, Writing

6:00pm Longer Walk (3-4 miles)

7:30pm Cook Dinner

8:30pm Mobilize, Meditate, Get Ready for Bed

As I mentioned this is my general work day structure. However, I’m much more open to the unknown of each day during this time and welcoming the magic of the day as it unfolds. And there is definitely more rest and/or down regulation in my days as compared to before. My body needed this reset. My professional, work life needed this reset. I believe the earth needed this reset. And I think we as a collective group of humans needed this reset. In March, I started reading The 4 Season Solution by Dallas Hartwig. I think it was divine timing as much of the book I felt like I intuitively knew deep inside but needed validation and/or permission to structure my life in this way. I’d encourage everyone to read the book. I’ve cut away the fluff and bullshit. I’m literally filling my thoughts and actions with things that serve me and/or others. I do not have time for shitty tv or movies, especially fake ass news. I do not waste my thoughts on fear or judgement or shame or guilt. If a negative thought creeps in, I’m gaining more and more awareness to stop in sooner and replace it with an affirmation and/or positive visualization.

As I reflect over the past two months, I ask myself:

How have you changed?

How have you stayed the same?

Values and priorities have not changed drastically for me. My belief in God and my faith have not altered. Yet, this crisis made those things a lot more clear in my opinion. I feel like I’ve actually strengthened my connection with God, my family and friends, and the earth and community around me. I’ve changed in that there are less commitments and obligations. I’m not overdoing myself and being extremely mindful of my energy, sleep, and self care routines. I have said goodbye to a daily alarm. I have avoided Amazon for local stores. And, I feel as though I am refocusing and recommitting to my values and priorities.

I’d encourage you to spend some time reflecting and asking yourself those two questions from above. As Paul Romer, Stanford Economist, has said, “A crisis is a terrible thing to waste.”

I’ve been meaning to write for quite some time. Yet the world seemed to be spinning a bit fast even though it came to a standstill in March. Anyone else wonder, “WTF?” more times than once in March?

I find it very freaking strange that the mass media can manipulate and coerce the general population into being so scared that they actually won’t stand within six feet of another human being, another human being with a soul and suffering just like you. I find it freaking mind blowing that people still listen to media sources with one false narrative after another and won’t even share recovery numbers. As an American citizen, I find it really freaking eerie that we are on house arrest and the means by which we make a living has been taken from under our feet as they threaten mandatory testing, tracking, and vaccination with a virus as the scapegoat. Where the hell is my freedom going?

I’m not here to give you the facts. I’m here to tell you to think for yourself. Stop taking a celebrity’s word and dig deeper.

Go Follow:

Del Big Tree

Dr. Sherri Tenpenny

Robbert F. Kenney Jr.

Maj Toure

Candace Owens

Erin Elizabeth

Luke Storey

Well, here we are. Friday, April 3rd.

As a small business owner and entrepreneur, today was a tough AND equally great day. Sure, it’s hard right now as I know many of you are going through a storm too. I’m not going to lie to you. Telling someone you can’t pay is something I’d rather not make a habit of because of the shitty feeling I have inside. Yet, I’m going to make myself feel it all, process it, and keep going. Sometimes processing is a few hours in a bath and other times it takes me months or years to process something. I’ve gotten more efficient through big lessons and time. The point I’ve got to feel the feels right now AND process them. I know you’re probably going through a bit of a shit show too. I’d encourage you to sit with those emotions and move them through your body. You’ve got to let go and let flow. You’ve got to cry it out in the bath tub and dance it out to Fleetwood Mac’s “Go Your Own Way.”

You get the idea.

Today, Mother Nature divinely intervened and gave me a good rinse and process. I just got home from one of my long walks around the lake. This was the first time, since living here, that I got caught in the rain on a walk. I mean I was drenched and still about 800 meters from home. I couldn’t really run because my shoes had water all in them. My shirt was clinging to me. And it was almost raining hard enough to make it difficult to see. Yet, I couldn’t help but smile. People were sitting on their porches watching the rain come down. They asked me if I needed anything and then said to enjoy. Might have been one of my favorite walks to date.

I know times can be a bit confusing and scary and rocky right now. And, they can also be joyous and calm and full of connection. Slow it down, embrace the light and dark cycles of the day and in our journeys. And you absolutely must put your critical thinker hat on and enjoy a rain dance sooner than later.

If we don’t touch ourselves, how will we know what we like and don’t like from touch? 

If we don’t touch ourselves, how will we embrace sexual curiosity? 

If we don’t touch ourselves, how will we tap into our power? 

Each of us have our own sexuality blueprint just like a fingerprint. What turns me on will most likely be different than what turns you on. What I deem as pleasurable may not be for you and that’s okay. The only way to discover what makes up your sexuality blueprint is trial and error. We have to explore and try things in a safe space and/or with a safe partner so that we discover our own taste in sexuality. 

Just like you probably have a certain taste in clothing or the style in which you wear your clothes, the more you explore the more your style around sexuality will be revealed to you. You’ll become more comfortable with certain positions and/or toys. You will learn what you like and don’t like as far as play in the bedroom. And you’ll gain more and more confidence around asking for exactly what you want. 

I’d encourage you to spend some time touching yourself today. And if it leads to mastubation, great. If not, no big deal. 

But side note, a clitoris has one job- pleasure. How wildly beautiful is that?! If you have female body parts, then you have a clitoris, which sits underneath the vulva, where your labia majora and minora meet. If you’ve never looked, then it’s time to grab a mirror to view. Initially you may want to use the pads of two to three fingers to just lightly move over the tissue so you can become familiar with the tissue and sensation. The clitoris has a head, body, and legs. You’ll be able to feel the difference in your tissue and you’ll find that different spots will display different sensations. 

Touch is a powerful tool. Slow it down, play, and explore. 

P.S. Don’t forget our next Coffee Talk Discussion Group is Wednesday, February 26th at 7am CST. Hope to see you there as we embark on a discussion around PLEASURE. 

Screw the New Year’s diets. Join me on a 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. 

Last year I embarked on my own personal challenge- 30 days of pleasure. I had recently gotten divorced and moved to a new city. No matter which way you slice it my ego took a major blow with those two curveballs. My self worth took a dip. And that shitty self talk had been let in the party that was the thoughts in my head. Based on previous life experiences, I decided I was not going to go down the “poor me”, victim mindset mentality. I decided that I was going to own my role it all and pull myself up. And, I was going to date myself. I  was going to love myself back into sensuality and pleasure. I was going to romance and swoon myself. I was going to make my own panties drop. And I totally can say that I did. 

30 Days of Pleasure was my jump start. I had been reading a lot about pleasure and sexuality and intimacy. And I forget exactly what podcast interview I was listening to but a woman was sharing about how she started regularly masturbating and noticing that energy had shifted in her life. I was game. Motivation to masturbate? Yes, please. 

I decided I was going to masturbate for thirty days straight. (like The Whole 30?) I got my good friend to do it with me too. I came out hot. I touched myself in new and different ways the first two weeks. Sometimes even twice a day. I noticed that I was caring about what I was wearing and the fabrics and the way it felt on my body. I noticed that frustrating work related issues just rolled off my shoulder. I noticed that I carried myself a bit more elevated yet also still felt grounded. I was totally feelin’ myself.

Then the mid slumps happen, which happens everywhere, every relationship in life. I had won myself, but then my schedule got ahead of me and before I knew it I was digging myself out of the email weeds. There were two days in the middle where I missed completely. I did not touch myself at all for two days. I showered but it was like a save-the-water shower. 

I caught myself. I made myself slow down and take time out. I got back on my 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. End of the third week, I met my friend in Los Angeles. We went to our regular Korean spa downtown. We spent the whole morning nourishing our naked bodies and chatting about our journeys inside the pleasure challenge. We both agreed that we had had so much fun so far. We also agreed that energy had shifted and will continue to shift within us. It was like we were finally stepping into our Queen, our next chapter. 

I invite you to join me for a 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. The only thing you have to do is one pleasurable activity a day for 30 days. It can be touching yourself and masturabting or it can be as simple as putting oil all over your body. Start thinking about it. I’ll start my pleasure challenge in March or April. I’ll let you know so you can do it with me. 

Hello Lovelies, 

Last week I posted a Coffee Talk that read: 

“One thing I’ve realized is that we, as a culture, have this assumption that romantic love is supposed to last (happily ever after) to be successful. And, if it doesn’t last then it wasn’t real or someone was at fault. I can honestly say this could not be further from the truth.” -LKM 

I had a ton of responses from this post, and a lot of responses of gratitude. I want to unpack this on the first Coffee Talk discussion. I want you to think about how you were programmed (from family, religion, friends, community, etc.) to view love and/or relationships and/or marriage. With each of us a different lens of this world, I’d love for those that show up to Coffee Talk to share. And then perhaps even try on another lens. Coffee Talk is a space to explore. 

Consider the following quote: 

“Do not celebrate the union of two people who’ve been married for fifty years until you understand what that relationship has done to their souls.” - Unknown 

Many of us are so quick to make assumptions and point the finger when a relationship ends. For the ones breaking up it often can often be isolating and feel like a failure. Divorce, breaking up, separation are often viewed with a layer of judgement and negativity in our culture when in reality it’s a process in which individuals need support and a space to integrate and arrive home in their bodies. 

Sign up for the first ever Coffee Talk Discussion Group- it’s only $9 and it supports me (a female business owner). I’m eager to see and hear what unfolds on Wednesday, January 29th at 7am CST. 

Welcome to my personal website. This is a space where we embrace transition and all the uncomfortable stuff that comes up. We don’t shy away from awkward conversations or big emotions. We stand and receive, with a big open heart, knowing that this too shall pass. After all, nothing in life is permanent. 

This space will be the hub of all my local services in ATX (BIRTHFIT, Personal Training, Doula, Chiropractic healing, etc.), my Coffee Talks and group discussions, and lots more that I cannot wait to share with you. This is a space that I truly hope shares the essence of my soul and my unique gifts with this world. This is a space in which I hope you can explore yourself and your beliefs and your body. This is a space that I hope will enhance your connection with yourself and your Universe. 

This space will be constantly evolving, because we are all constantly evolving. So if you want more of something or have a question or want to give me and my team feedback, please do so at hello@lindseykmathews.com.