My Wedding Week
This is our wedding week! It’s wild for me to type that and say that out loud. It feels surreal.
Lance and I officially met in May 2020 at a “Murph” event at CrossFit Central in Downtown Austin. Doing the workout “Murph” has always been important to me since I was introduced to it via CrossFit. It’s always been more than a workout. It’s been a way for me to embrace humility and send up prayers and love to those epic humans, like LT. Michael Murphy, that paid the ultimate sacrifice for the freedom we enjoy in this moment.
We met at the end of the workout when his dog Z ran up to me as I was talking to someone else. I was instantly drawn to the energy and goodness in this dog. Lance slowly walked up. I remember looking at him and in his eyes. I knew without a doubt that I would be seeing him again. There was an energy that took over my whole body that I never even admitted to him. I just knew there was something special about him.
Lance and I are sure our paths crossed multiple times without us realizing it nor it being the right time. While I was in Los Angeles in the CrossFit community, he was working with CrossFit HQ and back and forth with the Austin CrossFit community. In a previous chapter of Lance’s life he taught CrossFit seminars in South America and was a judge at the CrossFit Games when they were held in Los Angeles. In a previous chapter of my life, I helped to open DEUCE Gym and coached there for five years. I was also a chiropractor to many of the CrossFit Games Athletes in 2012 and 2013 seasons including Hack’s Pack, Sam Briggs, Lindsey Valenzuela, and more. Per our friends, we both attended a group dinner together, and we each only have a vague memory of that dinner.
We both believe that we met at the right time of our lives. We’ve each been through enough shit to know what we want in life, relationship, and love. In fact, our first date was multiple hours long—lunch and top golf—asking all the important questions you ask as late thirty somethings embarking on a new relationship.
A few of my questions…
“Are you open to a home birth?”
“Are you open to no vaccinations for our children?”
A few of his questions…
“What does marriage mean to you?”
“Are you open to changing your last name?”
With a filter like COVID and each of us asking our tough questions initially, we cleared the space to have some fun. We realized early on that we aligned on some of our big values. I think these were the boundaries that we needed in order to feel safe while also offering us space to be creative and explore within. We truly trusted the other person from early on.
I feel at home with him next to me. I’m ready to grow in love with Lance.
