30 Days of Pleasure Challenge wrap
I cannot believe yesterday wrapped our 30 Days of Pleasure Challenge. I am also still in awe of the serendipitous ways in which the Pleasure Challenge unfolded. I might have mentioned before that the Pleasure Challenge was supposed to be in February, but we didn’t feel ready or like the time was right. Little did we know that April was going to be smack dab in the middle of a shit show. Yet, it was beautiful Divine timing that I think so many of us needed, and after a few days, welcomed into our lives.
I’ve gathered a bit of feedback from some of you. And I’d love for you to reply back to this email with your own feedback if I haven’t heard from you yet. Let’s dive into some of the feedback:
A few have said that they did not have a clear understanding of what was going on. Well my friends. This was intentional. This challenge had one general rule of one hour of pleasure a day. The rest was left up to you to let go, be creative, and to explore yourself. I absolutely knew this was going to be frustrating for some of you, and others of you were going to take it and run with it. The guide was made to give you some prompts and guardrails to use if you wanted.
Many have said this was the perfect timing. I’d have to agree. Regardless of your opinion on the virus and associated politics, we cannot lose sight of our values and priorities and who we are when shit gets tough. It sure is easy to live in alignment with our values when life is grand, but when life is tough that’s when it is most important to live in alignment with our values and to be very clear on who we are in this world. When shit gets tough, we get vulnerable, and if we don’t know who we are then we end up making decisions out of fear. These fear based decisions will leave us with shame and regret and definitely not feeling whole.
Time blocking for the win. Many of you have commented on time blocking. For those of you that are entrepreneurs, this was nothing new. However, as a ton of people’s work shifted from the office to home, it became even more apparent that time blocking had to be a thing in order to get work done, meal prep, and have time for yourself. I’d encourage you all to continue this habit. Block out a Friday afternoon once a month to just wonder in the nearest park or take a long bath.
“I am worthy. I deserve pleasure.” This hits home for me as I’m sure many of you. This definitely comes up during the first week or so. I know it did for me during my initial Pleasure Challenge. Sometimes we can trace this back to childhood and unpack why we don’t feel worthy or like we deserve pleasure. For me, it’s because I never saw my mother live from a place of pleasure or love her body or take time to love herself. Definitely not her fault as I’m sure she never saw a grown ass woman living in pleasure either. Your worth relates back to your core essence of your first and second chakras. First chakra has to do with your right to be here, and second chakra has to do with your right to feel. Yes, you have the right to take up space, and yes, your feelings are valid and intimacy takes practice.
Seeing other women live in pleasure is motivating and gives me ideas. For most of the challenge, participants remained anonymous. Only if people wanted to share did I repost on my IG or meet up for an occasional check in. This was done intentionally as well. For many, you hear the word pleasure and automatically think masturbation. I didn’t want people to feel pressure to play or perform. I wanted this experience to be your own. Perhaps in the future we’ll have more face to face and accountability options.
This shifted my perspective to find pleasure in the small things. And that’s the major reason for this challenge! We get caught up in the hustle and bustle of life and mainstream media and material things. We forget that joy is at our fingertips. We are oblivious that pleasure exists within us and all around us. I genuinely hope this is one takeaway for everyone that participated.
Again, thank you for participating in the Pleasure Challenge. I am grateful to you and your feedback. If you want to share anything else at all, please do not hesitate to reply back to this email. And, don’t forget to check out the Pleasure Shop for Yoni Serum, Body Butter, CBD products, THINX period panties, and even yoni steam products. All of these products have been carefully created and selected as they bring me joy and help me to feel sexy in my own body. I’d love for you to experience these sensual products and to feel fabulous while menstruating.
